Honestly, I hate being a worrier. Especially over stuff that really has no impact on me whatsoever. Stuff that I seriously cannot control and cannot change.
BM spawned last week.
We never know what to expect from her. She says one thing and then does something completely different. When SD started middle school, DH started picking up SS and BD and BM would just show up whenever she felt like it after work to pick them up on her days. That's been the norm for a year and half. When she was in school, she'd constantly dump them off on us because of some important thing she had to do for school, etc.
A few months ago, BM "advised" us that her tentative plan was to pick SS up directly from school everyday once she had her baby and that DH could pick him up from her house at 6 PM. That once she went back to work, the StepDad would pick him up from school and DH could pick him up from her house at 6 PM. Now of course, we reminded her (for the gazillionth time) that pickup is when he gets out of school, and even though DH is working, her attorney did talk the judge into changing HER summer pick-up time to 4 PM so DH should be able to pick up SS when he gets off work. As far as I know, SD would continue to ride the bus to our house on our days.
Immediately today I'm worried that she's going to try to pull something with the pickup time. Honestly, with the hustle and bustle, I don't even know if she's had time (though I figure to save $215 a month she probably did) to pull SS out of daycare yet. So there is a small chance that we'll have nothing to worry about this month at all. She didn't say anything once she was reminded but considering the amount of times we've HAD to remind her, there is no telling what she's got in her head.
Then on top of that, I feel bad that DH has to drive all the way over there to get SS. I know there is nothing we can do about her taking him out of daycare, considering that there is a parent available to care for him after school, it's understandable. A judge would think the same. My biggest continued worries are the baby is going to wake her up multiple times a night, leaving her missing her alarm in the morning and the kids are going to see a hefty increase in tardies. Then if she starts picking SS up from school, she is going to be busy with the baby, so SS is going to struggle with his homework and his grades are going to tank.
Then on top of that, there's a chance a million things could happen. It's sad that I hope that baby is a big hassle so she'll slack off and everything will go back to the way it is now, no matter how much joy it filled me with that I wouldn't even have to LOOK at her for twelve whole weeks. Hell, for all I know, this one might turn her mother gene back on and she'll actually step up and be a real parent.
I like knowing what's going on with my day to day. I like knowing what's going on with my husband's day to day. The same for the kids. I like knowing where they are, who's picking them up, dropping them off, etc. This is just such a pain.
My OCD is showing...*sigh*
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